How Do I Read The Bible With My Wife?

I once sent the following e-mail to fifteen married men that I admire and respect. Their ages ranged from about 25 through to 80.

“We may be great friends or I may barely know you. But I’m sending you this e-mail because frankly I think I’m rubbish at praying and reading the Bible with my wife. You may be too, but I’m keen to hear any ideas you have or things you’ve done (or heard done) over the years that have been helpful. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated, no doubt Emma will thank you on the last day.”

I’ve compiled their shared wisdom below:

1. The devil will do everything in his power to stop this from happening.
2. Try to make sure that what you are reading, thinking, or hearing in sermons is always on your lips. Sometimes the less formal the better.
3. Things get more difficult the older you get, particularly during the early years of kids when you are both sleep and energy deprived.
4. Always pray at mealtimes, before you go to sleep and particularly when you feel conscious of a special need.
5. There is no magic formula. The Scriptures leave a lot of room for flexibility.
6. Lower your expectations. If you think each time needs to be an hour-long session with a deep and meaningful at the end, then you will never find the time. Start small. It’s better to keep it short and regular than long and months apart.
7. Make it normal. Aim to get it to the point where it feels weird not to pray and read your Bible before you eat, sleep, have a coffee or what ever it is you do.
8. Take the lead.
9. Use things that help. Prayer diaries, CMS prayer points, the church prayer diary etc.
10. Double up. If you’re leading a Biblestudy or preaching on something that week, read the passage together.
11. Be flexible and expect things to change. Life changes and you will need to adopt new systems that meet the needs of new circumstances.
12. Don’t feel guilty. Feel responsible.
13. Make a weekly commitment to a date night, find a book of the bible you can read together and then do it before you ‘date’
14. ‘No bible, no breakfast’ or ‘no bible, no bed’
15. Have a daily memory verse.
16. Read a bit of a Psalm before going to bed each night.
17. Don’t lose sight of grace.
18. Find a time that’s convenient for both of you.
19. Decide together what Bible passages will be most helpful for you to grow together in Christ.
20. Pray about it individually.
21. Talk about it.
22. A daily book of devotions can be helpful. Oswald Chambers’ ‘My Utmost For His Highest’, or ‘Morning and Evening by Charles Spurgeon are both good.
23. Be flexible and always adjust to each others body chemistry. Tiredness is a big factor, but it’s not impossible to find five minutes at some time to come together before The Lord.
24. Ask another couple to join you in what you are reading.

I pray these ideas are as helpful to you as they have been to me.

Question: How do you go at reading the Bible with your spouse? Have you got another one I should add to the list? You can leave a comment by clicking here

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9 thoughts on “How Do I Read The Bible With My Wife?

  1. Hi Tim,

    I just stumbled across your blog from fervr and have found this post to be very helpful.

    As a man heading towards marriage, I am thankful for the wisdom that you have shared here.

    Calum

    • Thanks Calum

      Marriage is awesome! I think the truest response to my e-mail was from an old dude around 75 who said “the devil will do everything in his power to stop this from happening”. I honestly think that’s why it’s so difficult!

      Work hard to protect yourselves from the father of lies.

      God bless you brother
      TIm

  2. Hi,
    I also came across this blog after scanning the fervr website, just wanted to say that it is great to see the commitment and wisdom of these married men, i am not a man or married 🙂 but this is great advice that can be adapted to anyone wanting to improve thier prayer with others.
    I have for a while wanted to start a weekly morning prayer group and praying with my partner who struggles in his faith so this has been very encouraging for me.
    Thank you

  3. Tim,
    Thanks for your service. What a profound area to help us many struggling men seeking to make sense of leading our wives in the Lord.
    Cheers bro,

    Eddie

  4. Hi,
    my wife doesn’t sit still so I began to video tape our 1 page readings of the New World Translation of the Holy Scriptures.

    Before Genesis there are 18 questions and each page has a drawing so she knows real fast that it will be a fast page to read.

    Even when we start reading she gets up, sometimes twice, but 7 minutes later I’m super happy that she finally is reading with me.

    Tonight I was shocked when she brought forth her bible in Spanish. (I knew she had a bible that had the letters too small for her to read.. but tonight she took out a new bible that was just given to our daughter this past weekend:)

    She told me: “Keep it next to yours, Daniel.”

    (She has trouble finding things)

    I am very happy that after 14 years she finally began to read the bible with me.

    After I got out of the mental hospital jail I stopped smiling or playing around the wife because it made her angry to see me smiling and happy. Now I have a serious face and she sits still for 7 minutes finally.

    She Baker Acted me the 2nd time because I was homeschooling our son.

    Oh well, this is life in the USA.

    At least she is reading the bible now:)