Why You Should Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

I wish I drove a Ferrari. Why? Cause they’re fast, flashy and impressive. I like fast, flashy and impressive!

Sadly that’s not what I was given. Instead, for my 17th birthday, I got a Subaru. Now I realise how ridiculous that is, but if you can see past the silver spoon, there’s a big idea.

God’s gifts are like cars.

Some people get the Ferrari. They’re flashy, they’re impressive and they get lots of attention. The rest of us get Volvos… or maybe something in between.

What’s my point?

You’ve got the body, gifting and personality that God gave you. As Paul says, “What do you have that you did not receive?” (1 Cor 4:7). Or to return to the metaphor, God’s given you a car.

But here’s the thing: It’s not what you’ve got; it’s how you use it that counts.

To speak personally for a moment, I’m stuck with a Tim Clemens. I would have liked a Mark Driscoll or a Tim Keller (great preachers). Even a Peter Jensen would have been nice… but I got a Tim Clemens.

My job is not to try and turn my Tim Clemens into a Mark Driscoll, but to be the best Tim Clemens I can be. I can polish it, I can fuel it and I can work under the hood to spice things up, but I can’t change it. At the end of the day I’m stuck with a Tim Clemens.

Unfair?

Not really. In fact it’s kind of liberating. Now I can be thankful for what I do have. I get to drive a Tim Clemens. Awesome!

I don’t have to imitate anyone else. I don’t have to compare myself to anyone else. And I don’t have to feel inadequate next to anyone else. God gave me a Tim Clemens, I just need to make sure I’m driving it for his glory.

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2 thoughts on “Why You Should Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

  1. Hi…

    I am currently experiencing a low self esteem. I do not know why but it seems that I can not stop comparing myself to others in Facebook. The worst part is that it has made me unhappy, feeling so depressed (i.e I feel like I am the most ugly person on earth).
    I know it sounds silly but this is what I am experiencing at the moment.
    How am I supposed to handle this?
    Thanks
    Mavie

    • Hi Mavie, thanks for dropping by. I’m so sorry it’s taken me a while to respond. From what I’ve understood from others, depression is a horrible thing so I really feel for you. It must be really difficult to feel so down. I have a few small things to say, but you might like to consider talking to a professional counsellor about how you’re going if it gets much worse. There’s no shame in seeking some professional help!
      That being said, here’s two very quick thoughts:
      1. God created you and loves you. You are not perfect (no one is), but unlike most love in our world God’s love for you is not dependent on your looks or behavior. He proved this by sending his Son to die on the cross for people like you and me. He has demonstrated his love for you and he wants you to respond to him in repentance and faith. I’m not sure if you have done this yet, but it’s an important first step in starting the journey towards a healthy understanding of your identity. The bad bit is you’re worse than you think, but the amazing news is that you are more loved than you ever dared imagine.
      2. Ignore Facebook. Most of it’s an idealized version of people’s lives that isn’t real. Think about it. Most people just put the best things up on their walls… Me included. People don’t care what I’m doing when I’m bored, so I don’t share it. But if i’ve had a great experience then I want to share it with the world! The problem is that when I do that it makes others think that my whole life is amazing… Which it’s definitely not! I just don’t share the boring and hard bits. Or think about photos. Who’s going to put a picture they hate up on Facebook? No one! They will probably edit it, put a nice effect on it, and then post it! If we’re not careful, these things (which can be just innocent fun) can have very negative impacts on both ourselves and others. We need to be careful not to believe our own Facebook profiles sometimes. They are an idealized version of life. So if I were you, I’d take some time out of Facebook and focus on living real life rather than the imaginary one everyone else is obsessing over.

      Hope that helps a bit. And remember, don’t be afraid to talk to someone (even just some friends or a family member) about it. That’s often the most help.